Come on baby light my fire! Moods have the ability to do this--- light one's fire, or extinguish one's fire! Can it be that a "MOOD" or moods really have the ability to dictate how your day/life will go? You get up and you quickly try to ascertain, "am I in a good mood today?" Or some people say, "I don't know what it is, but I am in a great mood today!"
Moods are often the same as "feelings" and people allow how they "feel" to dictate their mood. They need to be separated. It's very ok to feel sad, or happy, or overly emotional at some given time, but it does not have to affect your overall mood if you have already lined up your goals in life. Your goals should not be affected by your feelings. This is tough to do since as human beings we want love, attention, to be acknowledged -- to be validated, and to have time to even feel bad. But many times we give fuel our MOODS a bit too much!
Intimacy in relationships dwindle because people are apt to say, "I am just not in the mood." Relationship experts often encourage couples to "schedule" some time together so that you can rekindle the romance. The blocks in the mind have to be broken down before the scheduling can even take place. If you are reluctantly scheduling this much needed time together, even when the moment presents itself, how can it be enjoyable for anyone if you are continuing to resent the process and embrace your "bad" mood?
We need to take our moods in hand and replace them with INTENT, and this is relative to any aspect of our being. Make an intent to live life differently. If you can see the NEED for doing certain things, you can probably enjoy more great MOODS.
All of this came to mind the other morning when I was hesitating to do my workout (oh yeah, here she goes again talking about working out) and I thought about MOODS. I was NOT in the mood to jump up and down and sweat. I suddenly thought deeply about my so-called MOOD. My MOOD was governed by MY thoughts. I let the LAZY, "don't want to be bothered" thoughts get into my head. When I acknowledged that my "mood" was unfounded, I quickly shook it off, and remembered that my LIFE'S GOAL is to ALWAYS take care of ME! Nothing will get in the way of that, as long as I can truly control it.
In order to get what we want out of life, we have to put the EFFORT in, and much of the time, it is our minds that are holding us back, and not some random mood that gets it's energy from our thoughts. The key to MASTERING these moods, is to HANDLE and be in CONTROL of your thoughts.
Keep only the thoughts about WHY it is good for you to make the STEPS towards certain goals. WHY am I doing this? How will it benefit me? And perhaps, how will it benefit someone else? Even in that relationship, this is key. If the relationship is meaningful to you, you will realize that you have to SNAP out of the MOOD that has you refusing to be that extra loving, giving, doing person, and bring out the good mood that will benefit your relationship.
A good mood is not just about smiling and doing, it's about feeling:
Optimistic, positive, able, strong, purposeful, joy, signficance, brave, proud, elegant, accomplished, needed.... the list is endless.
In between experiencing real-life "moody moments," we have to remember what the BIG PICTURE is... and that is to have a LIFE of PURPOSE and WELLNESS!