The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be.....Don't let them put you in that position.” ~ Leo Buscaglia
Most people live their lives trying to please others, listening to what others tell them to do, tell them to be, and it's a shame. Each of us was given a life to live, to embark upon our dreams, goals and desires, use the talents we have, and help others. In some situations, people do need guidance because they may be choosing to do things that are not especially healthy or sensible, but sometimes this is the case because they lack the proper inspiration and help.
Stagnating relationships are one of the main causes of why people become unhealthy, with unhealthy habits. They find themselves constantly feeling pressured, imprisoned, out of control, and so they respond and react by finding comfort in things that truly do not give them the answers to their problems, but just soothe them momentarily. This becomes a repetitive cycle and how does one break loose? How do you break out of that minimum security prison that others may have put you in so that you can truly go after the desires that you have?
It's important to be honest with yourself and acknowledge why you are where you are in life, in relationships, etc. You may not be able to change your circumstances right away but you can manage how you react to these negative triggers in your life. Stop and tell yourself what your ultimate goal is and why you will continue to put up with whatever you are putting up with, and in the meantime, figure out ways to be calm and at peace and not let these intrusions and outside invaders get the best of you. Get in touch with who you are and your reason for being.
No one is allowed to come in and destroy you for their satisfaction. You were given your life for you.
Dinah Mulock offers this suggestion, review the following messages and note if any one touches you more strongly than the others and say them to yourself everyday --
1. "You are good."
2. "You are wanted."
3. "You are loved for yourself."
4. "You are seen for who you are."
5. "Your needs are not a problem."
6. "You are safe."
7. "You will be taken care of."
8. "You will not be betrayed."
9. "Your presence matters."
Believe in yourself !